Your Way

Some time ago, Daniel Harkavy and I crafted a presentation entitled “Your Way” for one of the quarterly meetings of our Masters Coach group. The essence of that lesson was to unearth the little “ways” of doing things which combine to make us successful.

We weren’t looking for the obvious disciplines, but rather the behind-the-scenes everyday activities that we rarely look at or question in our lives. We asked the group questions like, “How do you awake in the morning and what is your ritual?” “What is the manner with which you go through e-mails?” “What is the last thing you do before you leave the office each day?”

As it turns out, there were great lessons to be learned from examining the things that one doesn’t usually examine. To this day, I have many clients in that group who still talk about their “way.”

Now, there is a catch. Your “way” has a dark side.

While there are certainly some ways that you go about each day that are healthy and helpful, there are also some that have become bad habits. Habits that need to be broken.

Perhaps you have a “way” that you go to sleep at night. Your mind is racing, so you stay up late and work. You know you should get out of bed earlier in the morning, but you can’t because the bad habit of staying up late has overtaken you. This is but one example of a “way” that needs to be questioned.

The real issue with some of our little “ways” is that we don’t question them. They seem so natural, so innocuous. I have recently challenged some of my own ways, and it has been fruitful - and frankly, quite painful.

If you are reading this and something is popping into your mind about a “way” that you have, it is quite possible that it may need to be examined. My experience as a coach says that when one looks at these things and endeavors to change them, great things happen.

If you have good “ways,” exploit them. But if some are holding you back, then I implore you to see the truth and be willing to change.

“…and the Truth shall set you free.”

Coach Steve